What I Learned From Life In My Early 20s

I think this is the time I can truly speak for myself, decide things totally by myself, not regret, and can take the 100% consequence. So I made some conclusions. Here are the tips or lessons I learned from life in my early 20s.


1. None of your business

I always will meet this kind of person who constantly gives unsolicited advice to me or my friends. “You are not beautiful enough.”You are so slim.”Why you eat so much?”She is wearing too little clothing.”

I was frozen when I was been questioned because nobody asked me these questions ever. I do not know how to answer. None of my parents or my friends. Where are you from and you have the right to ask me these questions? No one can ask me these questions except the person who pays me. Thank you.

It is better to clean up your mess than to point fingers at someone else. So now when somebody asking me these questions I will just smile at him or her and saying “None of your business” (in my heart).

An emotional person’s thoughts on… getting your life together

2. Go for your dream

There is always a kind of people who do not respect others dream.

My friends who want to be a photographer but her family friend just asked her to get married and resting at home for the rest of her life. “Who talks about dream now?”Your dream is worthless.”

To be honest, I hate people who talk about everything in terms of their dreams, but those who are brave and sincere in their dreams should never feel ashamed. I believe everyone is deserved to be respected. We have no right to talk about other dreams.


3. Never forget why you started, and your mission can be accomplished.

The world is fascinating.

But we should not lost in the world and forget our original intention。

This will make us more charming people.

4. Do not be afraid to make mistakes.

Sometimes, I want to be perfect, but I am afraid of making a mistake. So I would escape, I would give up. I assume in this situation I can not see the results so nothing will be going on. But countless opportunities I may gain are lost in one hesitation after another.

Now I believe I need to fight for myself. I will take responsibility for the mistake. If there is a consequence of the mistake, we should face it and deal with it. Nothing and nobody can be 100% perfect. It is worthless not to try because of afraid.

Those who dare to express themselves should never be humiliated. Those who point their fingers at others should be ashamed.

We only have one life.

I do not want to be a synonym for something or others,

I want to be unique, aggressive, expressive, and have my attitude.

We should chase the light then let ourselves become the light, instead of being afraid of light or get lost in the light.


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Also, here is Three lessons from 2019 – Career, health, honesty

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Thanks for reading

Yanfei ~

Author: Anfy

Dream(ak)er. Graduate of the University of Toronto. Studied Architecture, Visual Arts, and Art History. Freelance fashion model, video maker/ social media manager, UX/UI designer. Being expressive makes me alive, being creative makes me curious.

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