Is suppressing emotions a sign of maturity?

I used to suppress my emotions. Let people know I am calm or mature enough. But slowly, if I tried to hide my feelings harder, I would consume myself more. I would think too much and immerse myself in a sad mood. So I would say that suppressing emotions is not a sign of maturity. A truly mature person, on the other hand, will accumulate their emotions gradually and channel them out, so that they become the driving force of life rather than the shackles in the heart.

What bad consequences can repressing emotion have? As the saying goes, “If you don’t explode in silence, you will perish in silence.” Suppressing emotions will only lead to stronger emotions. The day you can’t control the valve, the dam will burst.

When do we get to the root of things and have feelings that “need to be suppressed”? Let’s make some assumptions. Like when you have a traumatic event, like the death of a loved one, the rejection of a love confession, or the failure of an exam. You feel like the sky is falling in on us, with a flood of emotions rushing to your brain and eyes.

Then I took a deep breath and told myself, “Mature people can’t cry.” So this time, I repressed my feelings. But will that make things go away? No, the scratches left on me by the broken pieces of my heart will knock me out of your mind at some point in the future. More seriously, it may cause me to become silent instead of cheerful, alter my personality, and make me less happy.

It is a sign of maturity to not cry or be happy.

Obviously not.

The effects of a bad event don’t go away just because we put on a brave face or pretend it didn’t happen. We need to perceive our true emotions through constant emotional communication with the outside world, tell ourselves the reasons for the emotions, and rationally analyze and relieve them. When we want to cry, we can find an unobtrusive corner for ourselves and burst into tears. Tears can slowly take away the sadness in our hearts.

True happiness is “allowing yourself to be unhappy.” Just like true maturity, behind it is “allowing everything to happen.”

They understand that the world is not built around them because they recognize that everyone is unique and are mindful of the world’s impermanence.

So give yourself permission to feel bad, to not be perfect, and to like the wrong person.

So allow all the things that can’t be changed but are not desirable to happen; allow yourself to be a small and weak person in a huge world.

These words may feel depressing during this holiday season. But I hope I can express myself more in the new year, and I hope it helps you too. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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Author: Anfy

Dream(ak)er. Graduate of the University of Toronto. Studied Architecture, Visual Arts, and Art History. Freelance fashion model, video maker/ social media manager, UX/UI designer. Being expressive makes me alive, being creative makes me curious.

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