Just introverted extrovert things

Officially, my personality type via this scarily accurate quiz is ENFP. So technically, I’m an extrovert by nature. But for a long time, I had trouble figuring it out because I kept blurring the lines between introvert and extrovert. I thought I was going a little crazy until I discovered that “introverted extrovert” is a legit term. And then, I started reading all the articles and realized that there are actually other people who feel the same way! So here are some things that maybe you relate to if you’re an introverted extrovert as well.

You’re one of the most adventurous and outspoken people in your friends group, but you’re also really guarded around new people.

I will always remember this time in high school when I gave a presentation in History class. The teacher actually pulled me aside after class because she was impressed by how confident and articulate I sounded. Apparently, her first impression of me was that I was sooo shy.


You enjoy talking to people, but you also really hate small talk!

I don’t think my friends understand just how much I hate small talk. I want to tear my hair out when someone I’m close to texts “hey, how’s your day?” Like…dude…you don’t need to break the ice with me, just dive right in and let’s talk about the crazy stuff that happened.

I also cringe whenever I’m walking and someone I know greets me and says “hey, how are you?” when we’re passing by each other with no intention of stopping to chat. I get that it’s meant to sound considerate, but what am I supposed to do other than respond “I’m good, and yourself?” Then, their only choice is to reply “I’m good as well.” And then, we just walk past each other. What was even the point of that conversation?

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You enjoy social media, but don’t feel the need to use it to document every little detail.

I have friends who don’t have Facebook and I have friends who can’t go ten minutes without their phone. I love them all, and I love social media too. I’d take pictures if I want to remember the moment, and I’d post if something interesting happens. But I don’t feel the need to post every single detail of my life. Sometimes, I feel a little crazy because of this. Maybe it’s the age of technology trying to brainwash us all into living and breathing social media.


You’re generally a friendly and outgoing person, but it can take a while to earn your trust. The trust also takes a while to earn back if broken.

One of my friends once told me that she trusts people unconditionally unless they do something to break the trust. I think I used to be like that as well until life happened. (Yayyy) I still assume the better in people and give them the benefit of doubt, but life taught me not to see anyone as a close friend or someone I can turn to without proof that they are trustworthy. I’m not entirely sure if this is an introverted extroverted trait or just me.



Anyways, moral of the story is that there’s all sorts of people and there’s really no way to compartmentalize us. And also, no matter how crazy you think you are, there’s probably lots of others who feel the same way. Never be afraid to Google something.


Any thoughts?

Let’s chat in the comments below!



Author: Jin Cao

I am a multi-faceted designer, fashion blogger, makeup enthusiast, lover of cats, and connoisseur of ramen! Writer of LeggingsandLacquer.com Main fashion writer of Onahjung.com Find my work at Jinmartini.com

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  1. I just tested and got ENFP but I’m not going to lie, I relate to INFP as well and the TPs. I feel all over the place but I relate to this. I am very introverted as well but once I’m familiar with my surroundings or with certain people in them, I can be really talkative and social and enjoy myself. I just need time alone and I, in fact, prefer it. Since when I am comfortable in my surroundings and I can be really friendly, people don’t understand that I have other aspects to my personality. I also hate small talk like you and your pie chart made me laugh because.. so true. And with social media, I don’t feel like I need to post all the time. It’s a creative outlet and I feel the need to be authentic and ensure that I do not post with the intentions to gain anything. This was an interesting read!

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    1. Thank you girl! I’m honestly so glad you can relate ^^ there’s never really a black and white with personality tests, so I feel like everyone is a bit of everything. But it does get really confusing when you’re 49% introvert and 51% extrovert…cuz technically you’re an extrovert but that’s not all

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